《生与死的对话》The Conversation about Life, and Death

在加护病房里,
我问爸爸,
你害怕死亡吗?
他没回答我。
我又问爸爸,
你要一直和我们在一起吗?
他说,
要。

In the intense care unit,
I asked my Father,
Are you afraid of Death?
He did not answered.
and, I asked my Father again,
Do you still want to be with us?
and he said,
Yes.

祈泉
2012年9月1日于新加坡

//Father passed away 3 months later after I have asked him these questions. I was in Amsterdam that time, and did see him for the very last time, in Singapore, and his last word was asking me to come back to him, because he wanted me to bring him back home from the Hospital again.//

12 Responses

  1. This brought a tear to my eye. I don’t know what to say. The fact that you still remember this incident so well shows what it must have meant to you. I’m at a loss for words. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    • My father taught me so much when he passed away, his braveness to face pain, and his Love to his family and not leaving us alone in this world. Every time I write about him, I cry, and now too. I Love my father, like I Love the nature, in its purest form. Everyone’s father/mother is the greatest person in their life, everyone’s father, is also my father.

      Thank you again for your kind words.
      kc

      • What you have written is absolutely touching. I can understand how much you must love you father. There are some voids that time cannot fill. I admire your strength.You are absolutely right – everyone loves their parents so much that there is nothing that would compensate for the loss of them.
        Take care my friend. Best wishes to you.

      • Everything happened just like yesterday to me, although it has been almost 3 years now. It is not necessary a loss, but a father’s sacrifice to teach his son the last lesson about Life. He lives eternally in my heart now =).

        Love,
        kc

      • And that is all that matters🙂. After all, life is fleeting, but life’s lessons and the impact people have on us is the most important thing of all.

  2. I just burst out crying. And Im very sorry. This reminded me of the conversation I had with my late grandfather, he said his last words to me on the phone, but I never got to hear it properly, and he left right after. I had a dream of him two nights after and he told me something. When I called my Grandma that morning and asked her what he said to me that I didn’t hear on the phone, he said, ‘look after your grandma.’ The same thing he said to me in my dream. This was almost 8 years ago. .

    • Dear AJ’s Mom,

      Yes, Our memory about our truly love one is always fresh, I put everything in my heart for almost three years, and they keep coming back like it happened just yesterday.

      It is so wonderful to have love, and to get old with our love one, and to love our family till the very last moment. People are looking for wonderful life experiences, and I just look for a little wonderful love, and that is enough for me for my whole life.

      I love your grandpa, and his love to your grandma, and the Love really touch my heart, and make my tears drop too. This is how I wish, I will put a full stop in my life.

      Thank you for sharing your life story, it is truly wonderful to hear a story of a true Love!

      kc

      • Thank you, KC. And what a lovely response. I’m glad that you and I can both relate what true love really is.🙂

      • Yes, I believe in true love never let go (to each other), and this is the most wonderful life experiences, and wisdom we can get in this world! =)
        kc

  3. our parents live through us.

    • I agree, and they were passing their values and giving the last few lessons to us that will live with us for our whole lives =).

      kc

  4. 我无意都到了一篇有关生死离别的文章。很感动我,愿与你分享。

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